How can you Encourage Resilience in Children?

While some of the children may be resilient in character, as a result of the strong state of mind and strength, there are some who can be improved when it comes to exercising the resilience muscles. For instance, a resilient child is able to recover from the impact of bad patches in life, and few of the best ones can turn the disappointment or rejection over the power wheel into the opportunities for them. In simple words, if your child lacks this skill, it can be boosted in them, especially if you consciously make an attempt to support them and follow strategies to promote supporting values. Moreover, if you as the parent show them the positive effects, it can make a drastic change in terms of making children good at problem-solving, socializing and viewing the world with a positive outlook.

Nurturing Resilience: If the parents can guide children in changing the perspective towards life and reassessing the hard phases, it will not only make children strong, but the ability to anticipate the problems and tendency to prevent challenges can be garnered. Therefore, if you want to make them independent, you can start from giving them the confidence e to handle situations on their own and coaching in the best ways.

Positive Outlook:  It has observed that parents tend to lay a lot of focus on the good values, however, when it comes to practicing them in their life, they tend to overlook that. This means that your role as the model parents is probably one of the significant aspects for the children.  And if your children are consciously or unconsciously looking up to you, you will have to live up to the level of expectations in form of teaching them the good values.

Teachable Moments: If you believe in the traditional teaching methods, you may want to change that because it may make the children resist that or feel bored due to the obsolete modes of imparting knowledge or information. This means that it is good to try new strategies which have shown amazing results in terms of making children aware of the things they were struggling with or find it hard to understand. For instance, one of the courses in school may make them lose interest and that is where the role of parents comes into play. Parents can help to apply new ways of making it appear interesting to them in from of demonstrating real life situations which would become easy for them if they connect the theory with the problems they come across. In simple words, if you can turn the problems of children into teachable moments, it can help you to raise them in the way you had always imagined.

Kids Active Participation in Family: If one attempts to narrow down the activities which may sharpen the skills of problem-solving and strong bond with the family members, the participation of kids in the family activities would definitively make it to the list. This means that the more opportunities you provide to the children to spend time with the family members, the ability to stand and survive on one’s own would be polished.

Ability to Endure: Of course, it is easier to emphasize these qualities than actually implementing them in one’s life, however, if you can integrate few of the cornerstones, it would gradually build your ability to endure the challenging times. For example, if you expect the children to get better at responding to the crisis, there is a need to understand that it may not happen overnight because the strength of character cannot be nurtured or reach its zenith over a small period of time. In fact, the consistent efforts and steps will guide the process of inculcating the helpful values and skills.

Acceptance: It sounds simplistic to many experts, however, when it comes to taking the steps to prove this or that you have moved one after accepting your merits and demerits, people tend to grapple with it. Therefore, it is good to take small steps rather than opting for something you will not be able to do on the daily basis. For example, knowing your pros and cons is the first step to being open about yourself, which may eventually lead you to accept the things you can’t seem to have the difficulty with.

Normalization: Once you are done with the important phase of accepting your problems or situation, the next step would be to get back to normal routine or making the necessary measures to prevent the similar situation. For example, if your child needed to cope with a loss of family members and he/she has successfully gone through the phase of accepting the loss and void left by the person, it is good to encourage them to go back to the normal routine in order to internalize the changes.

Interaction with those who have gone through Same Things: The value of interaction with people is full of rich experiences, however, if your child is not doing well when it comes to certain skills or difficulty in life, the best way to make them realize the value of getting through can be taught if you make them acquainted with people who have gone through things worse than this or similar nature. The main idea is to exchange thoughts and helpful tips with each other, as it helps them to learn and compare one situation with another in form of being grateful for the things they have or are right in the life.

Sharing your Experience: Parents are mostly in a good position to influence the child in terms of making the situation seem worse or good, it is, therefore, that all the experience you share with the children are contributing to build and transform their character. Therefore, it is recommended that you talk to your children in terms of hearing their side of the story and sharing your valuable lessons to help them with hard things. Moreover, it would make the strong connection with your child in terms of sharing the same feeling and it may help the child to large extent.

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